Congratulations, if you haven’t already
started having your quarter-life crisis… you can officially begin. I had just
started a new job and turned 26. Every weekend was another
celebration because I had it in my mind how important it was to me. Every year,
I would go all out for my parties; from decorations to invites. This year… well
this year, I didn’t want to do any planning for myself. Not because I was lazy
or didn’t care. But because I wanted or maybe even needed others to. Then I realized what I missed
most, was the quality time I would have spent with my mother. All the hours on
planning and cutting and gluing. She would make sure my ideas would become a
This year, I was surprisingly shocked
and thrilled with the party my special people threw for me. I saw the amount of
love and effort from some, together with the lack off from others. There are
many realizations that will hit you. For one, I still found myself figuring
out my life when I thought I would have had it figured out by now. And it doesn’t
matter how old you are. You`re stuck in the middle of carefree twenties and “fuck,
you`re almost 30 so you better get your shit together”. But after 26 years on
this earth that is slowly going to ruins, here`s 26 lessons I`ve learnt.
1. Forgive them even if they are not sorry.
Chances are, you’ll never forget about it. But the memories will hurt a little less when you forgive them and they don`t need to know it.
2. Let things go and brush it off.
3. Friends can break your heart too.
True story. And I don`t know about you, but its hurts just as much if not more.
4. Count to 10 and try again.
Be it the internet, your ancient work laptop, that overpriced printer… but most importantly, when you feel like giving up. Take a breath, count to 10 and try again.
5. Be a supporter.
Just as you’re pushing yourself. Push others. Push them to be successful, wise and the best possible version of themselves. Surround yourself with supporters who believe in you and encourage you when you feel like giving up.
6. Your heart starts catching up with your brains.
They finally meet.
7. Worry less.
Eliminate any source of drama and unnecessary stress. You dont need it, you dont want it. You just dont give a damn anymore.
8. Start making your own decisions.
If you`re fickle minded, learn to start making your own decisions. There will be times where the poeple who turn to for advice or answers wont be there.
9. People want to bring up the old you.
Cause they are still the old them.
10. Stop procrastinating.
Late doesnt mean bad. But doing nothing, being lazy or too afraid to take the risk is. Just do it now.
11. Boss up.
Boss up and change your life. Be a badass. Bitches get stuff done !
12. Just because you wanted something badly, doesn’t mean you will get it.
And its not always a bad thing. Sometimes a rejection is a redirection.
13. You can`t know for sure what others think, you can only speculate.
Spending a great deal of your time speculating and caring is wasteful. Unless you’re a detective solving a crime, then speculate away.
14. Find your tribe.
A community of like-minded people who thinks, creates and acts similarly. they will be “your people”
15. Put your phone away.
One word; Disconnect.
16. As your life changes, so will your circle.
You un-click and re-click.
17. It`s perfectly okay to be selfish.
Make yourself a priority. At the end of the day, you are your longest commitment.
18. You need to get out of that dark place.
I will forget an episode on HIMYM.
Every so often, you might find yourself in a pit. You may find yourself there cause youre depressed with where you are in life, or someone you hurt you deeply. It doesnt matter how you got there, it matters whether you stay. You can get all the help you think you need, all the hands reaching down to pull you up, all the words to encourage you to take the first step… But getting yourself out of that dark place is something only you can do. Only if you want to. And when you do, you will be engulfed with a sense of peace and clarity.
19. Not everyone you lose is a loss.
Don’t beg anyone to be in your life. If they want to leave, show them the door and lock it.
20. Don’t sacrifice your time for someone who wouldn’t do the same for you.
Do not spend your precious time, money, effort and energy on people who just will not give you the same. Simple as that.
21. Do a lot and do nothing.
If you`re anything like me, and a late boomer then wake up your ideas. Now is the time to work your hardest even if it means losing the luxury of a night out or a morning in. Do more, do maybe too much and then do absolutely nothing. Have a break, rewind, some alone time, and do… nothing.
22. Not everyone can swallow the pill they give others.
And if they choke on it, save them… by giving them a very good hard whack on the back. YA WELCOME.
23. Blood is not necessarily thicker than water.
I know of some ‘water’ who are as thick as nutella and I fucking love nutella.
24. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.
If you don’t want to do something or go somewhere. Don’t. Do whatever the heck you want to do. Even if it means saying no and NOT doing the things you don’t want to.
25. People change.
And so will you. Not all change is bad.
26. Listen to understand.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.